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Insight Course: Lesson Three

Taking Responsibility for Our Lives

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Have we forgotten that we always have choice
over how we perceive the world?
  ~  Peter Russell

Both Scott and Fred changed the most challenging relationships in their lives by consciously committing to let go of blame, to understand their fathers, and most importantly, to open to love. For whom in your life are you still holding blame?

Take a minute now to think about it. Are you willing to change those relationships? Do you know that you have choice and that you alone can change and invite deeper connection into all your relationships?

It's important to note that taking responsibility does not mean staying in an abusive relationship. Sometimes taking responsibility means taking decisive action to leave a relationship that clearly is not serving those involved. For those who find themselves stuck in a relationship like this, consider opening to guidance and asking for help in what would best serve you and all involved.

Yet in all relationships in your life, even the challenging ones where you might need to keep physical distance, we invite you to consider how to let go of blame and open to deeper, more meaningful connections. Miracles happen when we set our will in motion and hold firm to our intention to love and support all around us.

Taking this further, what might happen if a person chose to take responsibility not only for everything in their personal life, but even for everything in other people's lives? This may sound strange, yet the below article shows how miracles blossomed when one caring individual had the courage to take responsibility to a greatly expanded level. Please read this inspiring article before moving on. - Ho'oponopono

Dr. Len states that everything in our lives is our responsibility and that the world is our creation. Though this may seem a bit difficult to swallow, think about it for a minute. Don't each one of us have some influence on what happens around us? Doesn't our individual perception of what is happening in the world around us in some way determine our experience of the world?

Remember that if you are willing to consider taking responsibility for everything that happens, this includes not only all of the craziness happening in the world, but also all of the amazingly inspiring and profound things happening everywhere. Consider what it might be like to take responsibility for all of this together.

We invite you to spend some time pondering this one. What if simply changing our deepest held beliefs and perceptions about ourselves and our world literally changes the world? Let it be so, and let it begin with me!

Consider in your life who you are blaming or holding in judgment. Draw up a list of anyone who falls in this category. For some people, the heaviest blame and judgment goes towards themselves. If you fall into this category, make a list of aspects of yourself towards which you harbor these feelings.

Whether the issue is with yourself, others, or both, think about what steps you might take in order to shift towards acceptance and love. Before moving on to the next lesson, consider taking at least one step or developing one intention to let go of blame and judgment and move towards personal responsibility, love, and deeper connection.

Even with all of the tools presented in this lesson, it often takes a long-term, continued commitment to make meaningful changes. These issues are rooted quite deep in almost all people's lives. Yet you can choose to take the first step on this journey now. Start with whatever step feels right and best for you.

Transforming blame and judgment is often like peeling away the layers of an onion. When you first start, the onion may be huge. Yet after you whittle away enough layers one step at a time, it can eventually become relatively easy to deal with and transform these challenges as they arise in your life. As you release each layer, you shift ever more fully from the role of victim into that of a powerful creator with infinite potential.

Take some time to let the wisdom of this lesson integrate into your being in whatever way is most empowering for you. Taking personal responsibility without the need for blame is a key to integrating everything presented in the Insight Course.

To close this lesson, please watch the short, inspiring video below. It's a fun, one-minute clip reminding us of the interconnectedness of all in our world. - The Wombat: One World

When you are ready to move on, please be prepared that lesson four will take us back into the shadow side as we explore the root causes of war. Through understanding the underlying reasons for some of the major challenges facing our world, we can powerfully support each other in taking responsibility and working to be the change we want to see.

Reality is in the eye of the beholder.

Special Note: The information in this and other lessons in the Insight Course has the potential to create wonderful shifts in our lives. Yet when we open to profound changes, life does not necessarily always become easier right away. Sometimes things get more difficult before we make a significant breakthrough. Along with the new realizations we embrace, challenges sometimes arise which invite us to take what we learn even further.

Don't be surprised during your journey through the course if unusual things or strange "coincidences" start happening in your life, both challenging and inspirational. If challenges arise, look for the lesson wanting to be learned and open to guidance and support as you remember the unlimited potential inside you. If magical serendipity enters your life, celebrate and enjoy it! Most people experience some of both, with lots more on the inspirational side.

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Take Action: Suggested Activities to Be the Change

  • Explore and write up a list of those you are blaming for problems in your life. How are you choosing to be a victim? How is your interpretation of their actions keeping you from your own potential? Pick one or two of these relationships that you are ready to transform and take concrete steps towards letting go of blame and becoming a powerful creator in your life.
  • Notice every time that you find yourself sitting in judgment of yourself and/or others. Can you first accept that your feelings of judgment are there for a reason? Explore then how you might work to understand your judgment and shift it through feeling your own heart, seeing the heart in those you judge, and choosing to come back to a place of respect and love.
  • Think about your family or the people who raised you. Are you willing to consider that they were doing the best they could with what they had? Are you willing to forgive the past, to let go of blame, and to transform your life? Even if key people in your family have died, you can find a way to shift any difficult feelings you have with them towards acceptance and love.
  • When do you choose being right over being happy? How does it feel? Notice the biological reaction and comfort you take from being right. Is that what you really want? Explore ways of stepping out of your comfort zone and delving into the deeper issues in any relationship problem. Explore the deeper joy that comes with claiming full responsibility for how you interpret everything that happens to you.
  • Play with the ho'oponopono healing method. Choose someone who is disempowering you or others and follow the four steps given: I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.
  • If you are one who blames yourself more than others, take concrete steps to heal this relationship with yourself. How much are you ready to let go of victimizing yourself to become a more creative force in our world?

For Those Who Want More - The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation

The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation inspires people to practice kindness and to "pass it on" to others. The foundation provides free educational and community ideas, guidance, and other resources for all interested in spreading random acts of kindness throughout their lives and world. A wide variety of inspiring materials are provided, including activity ideas, lesson plans, teacher's guides, project planning guides, and workplace resources – all free of charge.

http://www.self-i-dentity-through-hoopono... - Website of Ho'oponopono

Ho'oponopono is about opening doors to greater understanding and deeper awareness of life, and to one's purpose as a unique and valuable member of the human family. It is a process of letting go of toxic energies within you while inviting in transformational  thoughts, words, deeds and actions. The articles section of this simple, yet profound website has some particularly valuable material. - Website of Landmark Education

Landmark Education offers seminars around the world dedicated to changing lives through taking personal responsibility. Their teaching invites you to leave the past in the past and create a new image of yourself based on what you really want in life. Many have found the inspiring information gained in doing the basic Landmark Forum course to be incredibly transformational. If you go in with an open mind, you very well may come out better equipped to take full responsibility for your life. - Website of W. Mitchell

Learn more about this courageous author, TV host, business leader, conservationist and internationally sought after speaker who motivates and inspires audiences worldwide. - Undefended Love by Jett Psaris and Marlena S. Lyons

Full of warmth and humanity, this remarkable book suggests that the most powerful change happens when we are willing to face the challenges in our relationships with openness and vulnerability. Many practical tools guide towards richer, deeper relationships not only with our partner, but also with ourselves and all around us. If you are ready to take responsibility for your own life, and to take the risks involved in being truly authentic with both your partner and yourself, don't miss this book. - A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

Renowned writer Eckhart Tolle expounds on powerful ideas to show how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to transforming conflict and suffering throughout the world. Tolle describes how attachment to ego creates the dysfunction that leads to anger, blame, jealousy, and unhappiness, and shows us how to awaken to a new, more responsible state of consciousness and follow the path to a truly fulfilling existence.

Important note for registered participants: When you click on the link for registered participants below, you will find not only a box for your feedback on lesson three, there will also be a space for writing about how you choose to deal with blame or judgment, as suggested above.

If you cannot think of anyone towards whom you feel blame or judgment, we encourage you to look more deeply. How about yourself or certain aspects of yourself? What about certain politicians, militant movements, or religious groups? Once you've done this, explore how you might shift some of these feelings. Come up with steps or develop an intention to deal with this.

If you are having difficulty with this exercise, click the "New message" link in the left column of your personal profile page and ask for support. One of the guides who volunteer will respond to your request. By encouraging each other to take full responsibility for our lives, we are transforming both our lives and our world.

We encourage you to be in contact with our dedicated guides any time you might like some support or just to connect with someone who has been through this course. Use the "New message" link any time you'd like to connect.

Lesson four will delve into the roots of war and the often unseen involvement of the military/industrial complex in our world. Inspiring information will also be presented on how we can work together to change this. Together, we can powerfully change our lives and world for the better.

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